Learning the Secret Language of Fans
A highlight of the tour of Rundāle Palace is a special lesson to teach the secret language of fans. With ladies in the 18th century having to follow strict etiquette rules set by society, it was not surprising that the secret language of fans was created. With the constant pressure to be perfectly docile and composed in public, there had to be a way to communicate with gentlemen they were interested in.
History of the Fan
The fan has been apart of history as far back as Egypt 4,000 years ago. But, Japan and China are both recognized as where the folding hand fan originated. The fan was then introduced to Europe through trade routes in the 16th century. In the beginning, the hand fan was the practical way to cool a person down. It also had a ceremonial role in Asia. That changed when the fan came to Europe. The purpose of the fan expanded to become a way to show status. The more elaborate designs and expensive materials demonstrated taste and wealth.
Designs of Fans
Fans in the 18th and 19th centuries out of France became so intricately detailed and designed. Fans were designed with all sorts of materials that were available. These included Bone, ivory, Tortoiseshell, silk, Mother-of-pearl, paper, fabric, straw & feather applique, sequins, brocade threads, lace, tulle, silhouette cutting, engraving, metallic foil finish, wash drawing, gilding, engraving, metallic foil finish, and painting.
The Secret Language of Fans
In Victorian times, ladies learned how to gain the attention of suiters, flirted, and declined advances through gestures and hand movements using their fans. A fan maker in Paris published a leaflet detailing the gestures and hand movements of the hand fan. The thought is that it was to increase sales of his fans. But more contemporary etiquette books and magazines started publishing the language. Soon women and men both understood the language to communicate when in public. The proper use of the hand fan also was passed down from woman to woman. I love that we have looked out for each other since the 18th century.
The Language of the Fan
Carrying in the right hand in front of the face – Follow me
Carrying in the left hand in front of the face – I am desirous of your acquaintance
Carrying in the right hand – You are too willing
Carrying in the left hand, open – Come and talk to me
Covering the left ear with an open fan – Do not betray our secret
Drawing across the forehead – You have changed
Drawing through the hand – I hate you
Drawing across the cheek – I love you
Drawing across the eyes – I am sorry
Twirling in the left hand – We are watched
Twirling in the right hand – I love another
Presented Shut – Do you love me?
Open and shut – You are cruel
Open Wide – Wait for me
Touching tip with a finger – I wish to speak to you
Hands clasped together holding an open fan – Forgive me
Letting it rest on the right cheek – Yes
Letting it rest on the left cheek – No
Letting it touch the right eye – When may I be allowed to see you?
The number of sticks shown answers the question – At what hour?
Dropping it – We will be friends
Fanning slowly – I am married
Fanning quickly – I am engaged
Placing it on the left ear – I wish to get rid of you
Placing handle to lips – Kiss me
Placing behind head – Don’t forget me
Placing behind the head with Little Finger extended – Goodbye
Practicing the Art of Fan Gestures
I gave it a whirl and tried to practice my ability to communicate with hand fans. Holding the fan with the right hand is usually positive, where using the left is negative. I could have used some of these earlier this year. Having picked up a couple of fans in Asia, I find them great additions on my travels, mainly for cooling me down. But, I might be using some of these communication messages in the future. More meanings for you include:
- Holding the fan wide open means I like you
- If you hold the fan half-shut, it means I want to be friends only
- Holding the fan completely shut means I hate you
- Striking his cheek with your fan means, How dare you!
- And turning your fan so he can only see the backside means I’ll never speak to you again
- Holding fan in the right hand in front of your face means Follow me
- Holding fan in the left hand in front of your face means Leave me
- Closing your fan and tapping your wrist means Meet me later
- Placing the fan near the heart means You have won my love


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Summary
Learning the secret language of hand fans was a great activity on our tour of Rundāle Palace. The fan gestures and hand movements allowed women to express their feelings to potential suitors, whether they liked more attention from them or they weren’t interested. I enjoyed my time learning the craft. How do you think I did?
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At three old fans one of them looks to be ivory with silver inlay and hand-painted at the top. I was wondering if there’s anybody that can give me an appraisal and tell me about how old they are and where they’re from?
I have 4 fans to sell – one is ostrich feather pink and one is an Amish funeral fan.
I would try and sell them on Facebook Marketplace or Ebay.
Heather, this is great stuff! I am a fan of fans. It’s a shame it’s a lost art. Should they come back in vogue, you will surely be ahead of the fan game!!
It has gotten a resurgence since the Enola Holmes 2 movie came out
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this is so cool and helpfull. Thank you for the work you put in this piece.
You’re most welcome!